Good Fat, the Bad & the Ugly May 13, 2008

Fellow blogger Bill the lawyer posted something about good fat injections.  I found it interesting you should give it a read.

He mentioned about the possible powers that be-maybe you’d be interested in that too. I find my interest wandering way away from all that s*&t. It really stresses me that I don’t feel stongly supportive of any of them so I try to ignore it all.  I really would like to see a democrat in office again but I think we got the shaft in the candidate department. I guess I hope I am wrong but I don’t think either dem has a chance of winning the presidential election. Pretty much pisses me off. In case you couldn’t tell by my other posts about this garbage I am a bit bitter in this area-yet still strangely proud to be an American. In a lot of places I wouldn’t be able to voice my feelings (or do so many other things I enjoy and choose to do) so I still embrace my natural born citizenship. That’s the skinny on the good fat, the bad and the ugly.

On Monogamy April 16, 2008

I have two times tried to comment on my best friends blog with no success so I am going to respond to something she mentioned here. It made me think her  #76  of 100 things about me (BTW way to go I started one of these long ago but never finished-kudos to ya kiddo.) You can read the entire thing here if the link works. She said something to the effect that she believes if you are in say for an example a sexless marriage, you still love the person and have kids, maybe it’s ok not to get a divorce, perhaps cheating is ok and I respect that as her opinion. However, I don’t agree. I think if you really love that person you will do as much as you can to work it out-counseling, a sex therapist-whatever you think might correct the problem. Sorry but if there isn’t any sex at all there’s a problem unless there never was much sex but if you have kids there must have been a little. In any case if you knew the sex was bad to begin with-that’s on you-thinking marriage would make it better-you need a slap on the head. Marriage is tough. Society is tough on marriage in many ways but one is the extreme overall acceptance of cheating. It doesn’t shock me anymore to find out someone had or is having an affair. The thing is, deception is not the way. Creating an illusion to your spouse and kids that it’s all ok is harmful to everyone. I hate to tell ya-the majority of spouses can tell when you are cheating no matter how sneaky you think you are-they know, might be painfully looking the other way, but they know. I did think for a short short moment that maybe, just maybe, if both parties are in agreement then it might be ok to live this way-but not for the kids. Kids are so much smarter than you give them credit for-they’ll figure it out or see something or hear something and then what? They will be shattered. Now they know their parent is a cheat, a liar, not living up to their commitment-when they thought everything was peaches and cream. They will see the pain the other spouse is going through. Divorce is awful but staying together for convenience sake or because you say you still “love” your spouse is just as awful. You might still care about them and love them on some level but at this point if you’re thinking of an affair this love is probably more of an affection for someone you feel comfortable with. I honestly believe if you really love your spouse but are no longer happy you should let them go…let them try to find happiness too. Is it fair to go outside the marriage while the other person is totally loyal and commited because the think that you are? I call it greedy, wanting to eat your cake and have it too. Sure, I know people who have had affairs-I don’t condemn them-I just don’t have any respect for their actions. This is wishful thinking on my part but I would like to see the acceptance of this swing the other way. One of the reasons I think gay marriages should be legal-I believe in commitment and family. Everyone should have that right-but it should not be entered into lightly.

Honesty-such a lonely word March 11, 2008

Every election the E-Mails start circulating. We have some very politically passionate people in our family-in the last few days I have received about a dozen e-mails debating Obama V Hillary. Usually I put my 2 cents in but this year (as I said before) I just don’t know WHAT to think. Thankfully the e-mails are in good form and healthy debate-sometimes even amusing. Usually my gut tells me something but this year I am not getting any kind of vibe. It’s mostly due to the debacle TWO elections ago (last time I said one-oops guess the Bush administration is wearing on my sense of time) and then there was the Dean debacle that disheartened me. We were discussing this at my Aunt’s house last week. All agreeing that the reason he was ousted was plain stupid. He got excited and made, I guess an odd noise, and his campaign lost all hope as if he was some kind of criminal or social reject. My cousin also pointed out something I had not heard before nor thought about but he was making this jubilant noise in a very loud crowd, if it were not edited out it would have been very normal. It is due to things like this that I really am always reading between the lines wondering what is real or true, aside form facts like so & so graduated form such & such and grew up in where-ever-ville, I even question so called facts in my mind-which is why I usually go with my instincts-which like I said-not kickin’ in this time around. I am actually thinking of a write in of Mickey Mouse on my ballot-hey he speaks many languages and is great in foreign affairs-but his laugh is kinda odd-he’d never make it.

For Better or Worse December 2, 2007

I am not just talking about marriage but really there is “better and worse” in all relationships. Of course the hard part is getting through the “worse. ” In all relationships you have to get through that part with love and the thing is do you love the person enough to get through whatever the worse may be…is that love strong enough? I know I have my worse too that is tough for my loved ones to deal with. I am luck to have so many people that love me no matter what and that I love no matter what. Without that, spinning on this earth would be pointless to me. Lately I am thinking with all that has been going on I am forgetting about my “better.” I feel something going on in me right now, like I am on the verge of something new-a rediscovery. It’s a glorious feeling.

7 birthdays and a Turkey November 24, 2007

On Thanksgiving as well as eating ourselves into oblivion we celebrated 7 birthdays(these were just our October/November Birthday people)…and yes we sang the Birthday song 7 times(there was only 1 cake.) It was suggested we only sing to the “kids” from now on. I disagree (so does at least one of my other cousins and I am pretty sure my Mom-mom would too.) I enjoy celebrating the individual person once a year. I love the little things (that really aren’t so little) my family does that make my family unique and special. I am afraid if we chop away anymore at the little stuff we traditionally do we’re going to lose that unique closeness. I don’t mind so much that we no longer do gifts (there are good & valid reasons for that)…but I can not for the life of me think of one good and valid reason we can’t belt out a Happy Birthday for our loved ones from ages 1-99. The following morning I read me friend Elle’s post “On Christmas Lights” and if you will so kindly click on the link it completely explains why I feel the way I do about “the little things.” Thank you Elle for sharing your beautiful dream and thoughts.

Deception November 13, 2007

This week deception was one of the themes of a shows I watch. I really don’t have a whole lot to say on the subject except I really get upset when I find out I have been deceived (I am sure everyone does.) Mostly I just don’t understand it when it comes to people who love you. Perhaps they think they are protecting you. Most certainly the deceptive one doesn’t feel comfortable with the truth. I try my best not to knowingly deceive anyone, although I am sure I have and can’t site any of those events at this time. My question is: with major deceptions when it comes to loved ones-how can you feel comfortable not revealing who you truly are? How can one truly be loved if they don’t reveal their “real” self. I tend to let it all hang out with people I truly love and expect the same. I suppose this is sometimes a bad thing but it’s who I am. This way I know the people who have stuck by me year after year are the ones that really love me.

Iggy October 17, 2007

With so many pets homeless I just don’t get this…I don’t watch Ellen that often but happened to catch this story on her show yesterday. Ellen was reduced to tears as she clearly didn’t thoroughly read a paper she signed that stated if she couldn’t keep the dog she had to turn the dog back over to the shelter. I am certain there had to be another way around it like going out to the home of the new family, inspecting it and doing the paperwork with them instead of breaking a little girls heart and keeping a dog homeless. Rules are rules but they still could have been followed in another way and SOME rules are meant to be bent.

Oh Baby! October 14, 2007

This week I found out I am going to be a “Great” Aunt (literally.) My first thought was yay baby’s are always a blessing. A few minutes later I was like WOW that makes me a GREAT Aunt (literally.) Ewe. Then I thought well my Aunts are great Aunts and they certainly don’t look like they should be great Aunts and they are kick ass awesome Aunts so-it’s all good! And wow if this isn’t a time for lot’s of babies arriving in my family-last October my nephew was born, this July a new little beautiful girl 2nd cousin and December will bring another handsome little baby boy 2nd cousin for me to love. I am still hoping and praying for more babies from various family members and friends. I adore them all!

Bruce! October 8, 2007

My husband and I were watching an interview with Bruce Springsteen and the reporter asked him how he felt about “people” viewing his new music as “anti-American.” My husband said that’s where the media is wrong-just because we don’t support the war doesn’t mean we don’t support the troops and does not make anyone who speaks out against the war anti-American. I completely agree. The fact that people feel free to speak their minds even if their thoughts and opinions are not popular-they are free to do it without fear or  severe repercussions.  How very American.